Dear Doctor, My 25-year-old girlfriend is 10 years younger than me. I have noticed that her sex drive is stronger than mine, but I’m a bit concerned about how much she masturbates.

We live together and I caught her recently masturbating when I came home earlier than expected in the night. She admitted she masturbates at least once a day. This is on top of the sex she has with me (about four times a week). Is this normal? Does it mean I’m not satisfying her? She says I am and she just likes doing it, but I’m not sure I believe her.

Dejo, by e-mail

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Dear Dejo, She’s right and you’re better off believing her! In one major survey nine out of 10 women over 18 admitted to masturbating. It’s natural- so natural that it is believed humans are not the only females of the animal kingdom who do it. Female horses, cows, dolphins, cats, monkeys and baboons have all been seen to play with their clitorises or rub their genitals against things, especially when in heat. It’s perfectly normal for your girlfriend to masturbate everyday or even several times a day, and it’s also fine to masturbate less or not at all! Your girlfriend seems honest enough to say the truth and I believe if she wasn’t satisfied by the sex you were having she would have told you. So, assuming she’s not doing anything abnormal like staying off-work to do it or has an array of vibrators, relax and be proud of a girlfriend who enjoys sex and is not scared to let you know she does! 

 

@vanguardngr