Hi Valentine; How can I know for sure if my partner is cheating on me? I have this strong feeling that he is but I don’t know how to prove it.
Monica
Well, Monica. This is definitely one of the million-dollar questions out there. The truth is, I have no idea. That said, there are signs that have never led me the wrong way.
Are you getting frequent yeast infections? Are you trying to convince yourself that they are due to all the sex that you are having with your man? Maybe you are having a reaction to condoms or lubricant? In speaking to many women, I have come to the conclusion that this is a definite sign that something is amiss. Does your partner seem sexually distracted? This might be hard to pinpoint if you are the new partner and you don’t have a long history to compare things to. Just pay attention, does he forget the last time you had sex? Or think you like certain things when you’ve let him know that you do not? Compartmentalising two or more women is not an easy thing to do and he will probably slip up. It won’t be as obvious as calling you the wrong name, but it will happen.
Unexplained silences and absences are another sign that your partner is elsewhere. Does he disappear for stretches of time? Suddenly travelling for work or working longer hours than usual? These might show his attention has been diverted elsewhere.
Trust your gut and pray. I have been cheated on twice and each time, it is God who told me. I feel you. Just pay attention and trust that the truth will come out because it always does.
Via VALENTINE NJOROGE, Star.Ke
